“What do you do?” she was asked.
“Me? I’m just a mom”, she apologetically replied.
“What do you mean by “just?” Being a mom is the hardest job on the planet!”
“I know. But part of me feels…. lost. I feel terrible for thinking this way. I love my babies, I just feel like I need more. Everywhere I look, I see a mom enjoying being the mom who has nothing else going on outside of her kids. I don’t fit in that mold and I don’t know why. Their pictures are perfect, they never look tired. They never seem overwhelmed. They have it all figured out. ”
My first feeling to my friend was empathy. This is a universal problem we face as moms. What is this need to make it all seem to easy and so perfect ? It’s madness.
“Maybe you should stop trying to fit in the mold, and look in other areas. Do you also realize that you’re most likely comparing your raw footage with their highlight reel?”
This is a conversation I had with a mom who has been struggling with chasing her passions. What is passion? It is defined as “any powerful or compelling emotion or feeling, as love or hate.”
Passions give us joy, but more than that, they make us feel like we have purpose. It isn’t about knowing, it’s about feeling. They make us feel like we are on the path of something exciting. It is enthusiasm, it is constantly thinking about their many talents and their many loves. Passionate people cannot keep their minds from returning to the topic and can’t help but excited.
What if being a mom isn’t enough? What if it isn’t your passion? Then what?
Or what if it is your passion, but it isn’t the only one. What of that?
Guess what. It’s okay. If being a mom isn’t enough for you, then you need to refill your cup. You need to find what it is that you love and you need to run with it. Relieve yourself of this awful guilt you are inflicting on yourselves. When we are doing what we love, we are much happier (maybe even more tolerable) than we are when we stifle out inner need for growth and change.
Caring for ourselves and our minds is a basic human need that we tend to forget about when we are wrapped up in caring for our children.
If deep in your heart you feel something is missing, take heart. You are among friends and you are loved. You are enough. You are justified and hereby given permission to love on yourself and take advantage of opportunities that are presented to you. NEVER let a chance to improve pass you by just because you’re a mom!
What are some opportunities that have been presented to you since becoming a mom? Feel free to discuss it in the comments!
Love you guys!